We need to work harder to keep the Golden (age?) Rule evident at shows. I don't want my horrible dancing at a phish show broadcast to the world, so I wouldn't do that to anyone else. The blurry line comes from people thinking that a place where the culture affords a greater freedom of personal expression equals greater freedom to step on someone's toes as well. It does not.
The comment about keeping our thing 'private' was interesting, especially in the context of that WSJ article about concert security. I'm sure most people, like me, laugh with glee when a newspaper incorrectly describes the band, the shows or the scene. The journal article said:

"In addition, the band's recent four-year hiatus dissipated a population of fans who followed the group everywhere. That means fewer homegrown merchants—and drug dealers—who lived off the tour economy."

Really? I guess the reporter didn't go to sbix, where shakedown was as huge as ever, and it wasn't particularly hard to get whatever party favor you were interested in. But that's a good thing - who wants extra scrutiny in the lots? The truth is that the culture of freedom that we notice at phish shows is partially allowed to remain due to Phish's relative obscurity. Filming tripketeers doesn't help. If someone's attempting to blow up our spot via youtube just for yucks, the best we can do is make sure people doing it in the future know it's not cool. or wait until those blurry-suits from 'a scanner darkly' are invented, which would both protect identities and look awesome at a show